Being a Gentleman
are a number of things that go into being a Gentleman.
Some of those things are addressed in other parts of this book, but
it all must come together to be effective in reaching the status of
“Gentleman.” The term
“Gentleman” is thrown around too casually these days. A Gentleman combines the skills of manners, conversation,
conduct and personal integrity all rolled into a seamless package.
will open doors for ladies, offer their seat to them, stand when a woman
enters the room and offer their arm when going up or down steps.
A Gentleman will never use foul language in front of women and
children, or discuss improper topics in front of them.
It is sad to say this, but it is necessary today to explain what
some of those topics might be.
of areas to NOT discuss in front of women and children include:
-Sexually suggestive issues or jokes
-Personal hygiene issues of a nature that are
definitely private (talking about brushing your teeth is one thing, but
bodily functions such as flatulence and other bowel movements are off
-Gossip in general should be avoided as it is never
good to spread this kind of information and it sets a poor example for
these areas is a good start to conducting yourself in a manner that befits
a Gentleman. Always present a
positive attitude and be willing to offer assistance to others.
In offering assistance, be sure it is for ethical, honorable
Robert E. Lee
the finest example of manhood we have is Robert E. Lee.
description of what a gentleman should be was Lee’s description of what
a leader should be. He
summarized the goal when he wrote: “The
forbearing use of power does not only form the touchstone, but the manner
in which an individual enjoys certain advantages over others is the test
of a true gentleman.”
power which the strong have over the weak, the magistrate over the
unlettered, the experienced over the confiding, even the clever over the
silly – the forbearing or inoffensive use of all this power or
authority, or the total absence of it when the case admits it, will show
the gentleman in plain light. The
gentleman does not needlessly or unnecessarily remind an offender of a
wrong he may have committed against him.
He can not only forgive, he can forget; and he strives for that
nobleness of self and mildness of character which impart sufficient
strength to let the past be the past.